Well after the last post I was hoping that there would be nothing more to say about K but that doesn't seem to be the case. I really don't want to keep talking about her but she keeps popping up in my life and then last night it was my dream!!!! But before we get to that lets get a little re-cap.
So she left on the 20th and should have been ale to make it in about 3-4 days. She was loaded down with 5 dogs, 6 cats, a lamb and a bird. Yeah I know that is a lot of animals. She had her little truck and a U-Haul for all of her stuff and could only go about 35 I think she said so she wouldn't be making great time and then have to stop to potty everyone. I thought I would hear from her later on that day just to say that things were going ok, or at least the next morning. I heard nothing until Mon and that was because her friend D called me to see if I had head from her!!! Three days and no one here's anything. The only reason D heard from her is because she needed money!!! I couldn't believe it when she told me that. We spent the rest of the week trying to guess where she was and how the weather was effecting her drive.
She never showed up until New Year's Eve. She called, I think, on Christmas Eve to say that she was stopping for the day at another friends house that was about 5 hours away from D. Again no call to either one of us. Personally I would have found a way to call someone and say "Ok, this is where I am, I'm going to stop for a couple of hours and stretch my legs and the dogs legs, and then should be back on the road by this time. The weather is doing this so it's slow going, blah blah blah." It's a common courtesy that you tell people where you are especially when you are driving thru 4 states!!!!
Anyways I got a call from D on New Years Eve that she finally showed up and then left all the animals in their crates, didn't feed them, etc and then left for the night and never came back. I had a dream, nightmare really, that she showed up here with her animals. That is so scary for me. I can't believe I had that dream, I must of had something really bad to eat/drink last night for that one to happen.
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Good bye K
This might be my last post about K for awhile. She finally moved today. I am a little sad that she is gone but on the other hand I'm happy. She is a little hard to take sometimes. I don't mind helping someone out when hey need it but I have other things to do during the day other then talking on the phone. I mean really, who wants to be on the phone for a good 2 hours? She bought herself a headset because she was on the phone so much. LOL.
She has been trying to move for the past two months, trying to miss the storms up north, but was finally able to get the money and everything else situated now. There was a lot of drams (as always) surrounding the whole thing. When we talked about it last month it was to find out what I wanted to do about the money she owed me. Personally I want the money not the camera that she bought (and all the extras along with it), personally I don't think she needed to buy all the stuff she did buy but that's another pot for another day. She said that she was trying to adopt out the dogs and the lamb and cats (remember all of them?) but I don't remember seeing ads or signs out for them anywhere (again a post for another day).
She had called me to tell me that she was leaving the angel trumps for me. Great I'll be by in the next day or so to get them. Then she went on, for 45 minutes, telling me about how hard it was to pack everything and that the freeze the other night changed all her plans, etc all while I am trying to tell her that I am at school and working and I need to get off the phone.
I feel like I should be upset that she is leaving and had such a hard time her and then all the BS that her quote-unquote friend did today while she was trying to leave. It's just a headache talking to her. I'm kinda happy because now she won't be here bothering me, calling me all the time, and wanting me to come over and do stuff. She kept talking up us moving into the house that she was in and there is no way that I would even think about that, not after this happened. I was there today to "help" but still trying to get away. She even asked me if I could follow her to the tunnel (which is only a 30 minute drive) because of some stuff going on with him but I have other things to do.
I hate to point fingers and say "you should have done this and you should have done that" but if she had gotten out of the house more, even just going walking, and tone down the paranoia she might have made some friends. She had no one to call but me and her church. That, in my opinion, is sad. You have one person you can call in a town that you have lived in for 3 yr.
She has been trying to move for the past two months, trying to miss the storms up north, but was finally able to get the money and everything else situated now. There was a lot of drams (as always) surrounding the whole thing. When we talked about it last month it was to find out what I wanted to do about the money she owed me. Personally I want the money not the camera that she bought (and all the extras along with it), personally I don't think she needed to buy all the stuff she did buy but that's another pot for another day. She said that she was trying to adopt out the dogs and the lamb and cats (remember all of them?) but I don't remember seeing ads or signs out for them anywhere (again a post for another day).
She had called me to tell me that she was leaving the angel trumps for me. Great I'll be by in the next day or so to get them. Then she went on, for 45 minutes, telling me about how hard it was to pack everything and that the freeze the other night changed all her plans, etc all while I am trying to tell her that I am at school and working and I need to get off the phone.
I feel like I should be upset that she is leaving and had such a hard time her and then all the BS that her quote-unquote friend did today while she was trying to leave. It's just a headache talking to her. I'm kinda happy because now she won't be here bothering me, calling me all the time, and wanting me to come over and do stuff. She kept talking up us moving into the house that she was in and there is no way that I would even think about that, not after this happened. I was there today to "help" but still trying to get away. She even asked me if I could follow her to the tunnel (which is only a 30 minute drive) because of some stuff going on with him but I have other things to do.
I hate to point fingers and say "you should have done this and you should have done that" but if she had gotten out of the house more, even just going walking, and tone down the paranoia she might have made some friends. She had no one to call but me and her church. That, in my opinion, is sad. You have one person you can call in a town that you have lived in for 3 yr.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Having a flashback
I was hanging outover at Facebook and got to thinking about this movie.
OMGoodness, do you see how much Ice hasn't changed?
OMGoodness, do you see how much Ice hasn't changed?
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
A very personal post
Just to warn you this is a very personal post so if you are not ready to read about sex and love then stop reading now.
I was with my mommy friends today and we somehow got on the topic of "open marriages". Now I am not one to openly talk about my marriage and today was one of those days. They were talking about how "open marriages" were detrimental to the woman and the relationship. I, for one, am here to say that is not always the case. I have an open marriage and by that I mean we talk about everything.
There is not a lot we don't tell each other. I know he is attracted to these other women he sees and vice versa, there's nothing wrong with that. If you are not open and honest with the person you are with then you can't be comfortable with them.
Now some of yo may be thinking, does he openly do it in front of me? Do I find that rude? Not all. I know he loves me (and vice versa) and that these women (men) are just for fun. They are not serious and will never be serious. One of the ladies said "When your fantasy becomes real life, then you have a problem." Personally I see nothing wrong with letting your fantasies come true. If it is in a comfortable, controlled setting.
There is no way that I would have, or will, tell these ladies about my marriage. They are not open enough to take what I have to say seriously.
I was with my mommy friends today and we somehow got on the topic of "open marriages". Now I am not one to openly talk about my marriage and today was one of those days. They were talking about how "open marriages" were detrimental to the woman and the relationship. I, for one, am here to say that is not always the case. I have an open marriage and by that I mean we talk about everything.
There is not a lot we don't tell each other. I know he is attracted to these other women he sees and vice versa, there's nothing wrong with that. If you are not open and honest with the person you are with then you can't be comfortable with them.
Now some of yo may be thinking, does he openly do it in front of me? Do I find that rude? Not all. I know he loves me (and vice versa) and that these women (men) are just for fun. They are not serious and will never be serious. One of the ladies said "When your fantasy becomes real life, then you have a problem." Personally I see nothing wrong with letting your fantasies come true. If it is in a comfortable, controlled setting.
There is no way that I would have, or will, tell these ladies about my marriage. They are not open enough to take what I have to say seriously.
Friday, September 5, 2008
This is from about 2 weeks ago but has been going on for awhile. (I had to grab it from one of my mommy boards instead of typing it all over again)
I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.
There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.
She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.
She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.
On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.
There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.
So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)
Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.
I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.
There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.
She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.
She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.
On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.
There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.
So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)
Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Boost mobile
Now I am not one to be against anyone but isn't this a very girly guy? I'm almost positive that this is a cross dresser.
Monday, May 26, 2008
I'm sick leave me alone!!!!!!!!
I got sick on Friday and was trying to sleep. I woke up this way. I felt bad on Thursday and didn't finish my nil appt. I mean I got all the way there and then left. I felt really bad to because I love my nail lady. I think I've said how much I like my nail lady but I'm getting off the topic.
Since I was feeling bad when I woke up I knew that I was just going to take Savie to school and then come home to sleep. I should have known that that was not going to be possible. I came home and decided that since i was home alone I would watch some of my movies alone. I had my laptop turned off, and my movies in, took a couple of cold pills and then laid down. I was ready to enjoy the movie and the quiet. and then. she called. Why you ask? Why did I answer the phone? Because I was hoping that she would realize that I was sick and needed to sleep and wasn't in the mood for a long, long, long, talk on the phone about what her dogs are doing and the cat is climbing up the wall, and the lamb is baa-ing to be let in, etc. I should have just let it go.
She calls everyday for nothing. To talk. I have other things that I need to do during the day. I'm sure that it's great and everything that she can talk while she cleans the yard, does a load of laundry but I would like to be able to do that stuff and talk to my daughter at the same time, not be on the phone with er. I don't care about the dang dog barking at some guy walking by, or that the cat is pregnant again, or that the guy she got the truck from is being weird. I don't know what any of that has to do with me. i have a life it's kinda sad that she doesn't. Instead of being able to sleep for at least 2 hours I spent 45 minutes on the phone with her and then tried to sleep.
Every day is like this. how many different ways can you possible be nice about not wanting to talk to someone? I work every morning so most of the time I don't answer my phone unless it's hubby. I don't want to be pulled away from the kids when I'm there. But I will have to find a way to stop this calling every couple of hours a day just to talk.
Since I was feeling bad when I woke up I knew that I was just going to take Savie to school and then come home to sleep. I should have known that that was not going to be possible. I came home and decided that since i was home alone I would watch some of my movies alone. I had my laptop turned off, and my movies in, took a couple of cold pills and then laid down. I was ready to enjoy the movie and the quiet. and then. she called. Why you ask? Why did I answer the phone? Because I was hoping that she would realize that I was sick and needed to sleep and wasn't in the mood for a long, long, long, talk on the phone about what her dogs are doing and the cat is climbing up the wall, and the lamb is baa-ing to be let in, etc. I should have just let it go.
She calls everyday for nothing. To talk. I have other things that I need to do during the day. I'm sure that it's great and everything that she can talk while she cleans the yard, does a load of laundry but I would like to be able to do that stuff and talk to my daughter at the same time, not be on the phone with er. I don't care about the dang dog barking at some guy walking by, or that the cat is pregnant again, or that the guy she got the truck from is being weird. I don't know what any of that has to do with me. i have a life it's kinda sad that she doesn't. Instead of being able to sleep for at least 2 hours I spent 45 minutes on the phone with her and then tried to sleep.
Every day is like this. how many different ways can you possible be nice about not wanting to talk to someone? I work every morning so most of the time I don't answer my phone unless it's hubby. I don't want to be pulled away from the kids when I'm there. But I will have to find a way to stop this calling every couple of hours a day just to talk.
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