Sunday, December 21, 2008

Good bye K

This might be my last post about K for awhile. She finally moved today. I am a little sad that she is gone but on the other hand I'm happy. She is a little hard to take sometimes. I don't mind helping someone out when hey need it but I have other things to do during the day other then talking on the phone. I mean really, who wants to be on the phone for a good 2 hours? She bought herself a headset because she was on the phone so much. LOL.

She has been trying to move for the past two months, trying to miss the storms up north, but was finally able to get the money and everything else situated now. There was a lot of drams (as always) surrounding the whole thing. When we talked about it last month it was to find out what I wanted to do about the money she owed me. Personally I want the money not the camera that she bought (and all the extras along with it), personally I don't think she needed to buy all the stuff she did buy but that's another pot for another day. She said that she was trying to adopt out the dogs and the lamb and cats (remember all of them?) but I don't remember seeing ads or signs out for them anywhere (again a post for another day).
She had called me to tell me that she was leaving the angel trumps for me. Great I'll be by in the next day or so to get them. Then she went on, for 45 minutes, telling me about how hard it was to pack everything and that the freeze the other night changed all her plans, etc all while I am trying to tell her that I am at school and working and I need to get off the phone.

I feel like I should be upset that she is leaving and had such a hard time her and then all the BS that her quote-unquote friend did today while she was trying to leave. It's just a headache talking to her. I'm kinda happy because now she won't be here bothering me, calling me all the time, and wanting me to come over and do stuff. She kept talking up us moving into the house that she was in and there is no way that I would even think about that, not after this happened. I was there today to "help" but still trying to get away. She even asked me if I could follow her to the tunnel (which is only a 30 minute drive) because of some stuff going on with him but I have other things to do.
I hate to point fingers and say "you should have done this and you should have done that" but if she had gotten out of the house more, even just going walking, and tone down the paranoia she might have made some friends. She had no one to call but me and her church. That, in my opinion, is sad. You have one person you can call in a town that you have lived in for 3 yr.

Monday, December 15, 2008

Having a flashback

I was hanging outover at Facebook and got to thinking about this movie.

OMGoodness, do you see how much Ice hasn't changed?

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

A very personal post

Just to warn you this is a very personal post so if you are not ready to read about sex and love then stop reading now.

I was with my mommy friends today and we somehow got on the topic of "open marriages". Now I am not one to openly talk about my marriage and today was one of those days. They were talking about how "open marriages" were detrimental to the woman and the relationship. I, for one, am here to say that is not always the case. I have an open marriage and by that I mean we talk about everything.

There is not a lot we don't tell each other. I know he is attracted to these other women he sees and vice versa, there's nothing wrong with that. If you are not open and honest with the person you are with then you can't be comfortable with them.

Now some of yo may be thinking, does he openly do it in front of me? Do I find that rude? Not all. I know he loves me (and vice versa) and that these women (men) are just for fun. They are not serious and will never be serious. One of the ladies said "When your fantasy becomes real life, then you have a problem." Personally I see nothing wrong with letting your fantasies come true. If it is in a comfortable, controlled setting.

There is no way that I would have, or will, tell these ladies about my marriage. They are not open enough to take what I have to say seriously.

Friday, September 5, 2008

This is from about 2 weeks ago but has been going on for awhile. (I had to grab it from one of my mommy boards instead of typing it all over again)

I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.

There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.

She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.

She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.

On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.

There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.

So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)

Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.

Sunday, June 1, 2008

Boost mobile

Now I am not one to be against anyone but isn't this a very girly guy? I'm almost positive that this is a cross dresser.

Monday, May 26, 2008

I'm sick leave me alone!!!!!!!!

I got sick on Friday and was trying to sleep. I woke up this way. I felt bad on Thursday and didn't finish my nil appt. I mean I got all the way there and then left. I felt really bad to because I love my nail lady. I think I've said how much I like my nail lady but I'm getting off the topic.

Since I was feeling bad when I woke up I knew that I was just going to take Savie to school and then come home to sleep. I should have known that that was not going to be possible. I came home and decided that since i was home alone I would watch some of my movies alone. I had my laptop turned off, and my movies in, took a couple of cold pills and then laid down. I was ready to enjoy the movie and the quiet. and then. she called. Why you ask? Why did I answer the phone? Because I was hoping that she would realize that I was sick and needed to sleep and wasn't in the mood for a long, long, long, talk on the phone about what her dogs are doing and the cat is climbing up the wall, and the lamb is baa-ing to be let in, etc. I should have just let it go.

She calls everyday for nothing. To talk. I have other things that I need to do during the day. I'm sure that it's great and everything that she can talk while she cleans the yard, does a load of laundry but I would like to be able to do that stuff and talk to my daughter at the same time, not be on the phone with er. I don't care about the dang dog barking at some guy walking by, or that the cat is pregnant again, or that the guy she got the truck from is being weird. I don't know what any of that has to do with me. i have a life it's kinda sad that she doesn't. Instead of being able to sleep for at least 2 hours I spent 45 minutes on the phone with her and then tried to sleep.

Every day is like this. how many different ways can you possible be nice about not wanting to talk to someone? I work every morning so most of the time I don't answer my phone unless it's hubby. I don't want to be pulled away from the kids when I'm there. But I will have to find a way to stop this calling every couple of hours a day just to talk.

Friday, March 28, 2008

For a person who is on a tight budget she always seems to call me just to talk. Her number is blocked so she has to unblock it to call me at home and it shows "unavailable" when she calls my cell, but she called me today and I knew she was out and about with someone else so I thought she was stuck somewhere and needed help, otherwise I would have waited to answer it. But I did. and it was just to tell me she a truck (is test driving it), got insurance for it, on her way to Douglas, etc. Why are you wasting you cell minutes, when your a pre-paid phone for that matter, just to tell me something you can tell me when you get home? That makes no sense.

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Good Morning

Sometimes I wish if K was going to call me early in the morning that it would be for a good reason. Just to say Good Morning. Not to tell me that her neighbor, from across the street, dog's was out (AGAIN) and was in her yard (AGAIN) and that her dog was trying to attack it. Now I am a dog lover and don't wish harm to any animal but I have no sympathy for her today. I have told her to call the cops every time this dog is out running loose, getting in her yard, whatever the case may be. If you don't call, the dog doesn't have a record of disturbances and they don't know to keep an eye out for him. I know this because I have called about the dog 2 streets over from me. See the post I wrote about that here.

Did you read it? Ok so now your caught up. The dog that is 2 streets over has charged me several times, not only when I have taken my dog for a walk but when it's just Savie and I. That is where I draw the line. I understand that dogs being dogs, they will protect what they see as theirs, but to charge me when I am walking with my daughter will get you hurt. It doesn't matter what the breed is so I won't even tell you what the dog is but I have called about this dog several times. Every time. Not just when I am with Savie. this dog needs to be controlled. I blame the dogs actions on the owner.

Why you ask? Ever you ever seen people let their dogs out on a deserted road and then take off? try to 'race' the dog home?Yeah well that's what this guys does. Across one of the few major streets that we have in town. Not that far from a blind curve where people are driving 45MPH. This dog is going to get hurt. I have almost hit it once. (Going to the store after dark almost didn't see it when I turned the corner, doesn't help that this is a dark colored dog.)

So if she's going to get upset because the dog finally gets into her yard and messes with her lamb. and dog. and puppies. I can't help her.

Monday, March 24, 2008

another rant

I hate to just keep harping on the same thing but K is really annoying. You would think that after a day or so of not talking to me she would get the hint that I don't have the time, or desire, to sit and talk on the phone for hours at a time. And it's not just with her, it's in general. I think the last time I spent more than 20 minutes on the phone talking to someone I was on hold. Yes I know that sounds mean and everything but I have a life. I have other things to do with my day. My day does not revolve around a bunch of animals in my house. I have a daughter to feed, pay attention to, clean up after, dishes to wash, clothes to wash/dry/fold/put away, etc.

Yesterday was Easter, time for family to be together doing whatever they do. I got 3 emails and 2 phone calls from her just "saying hi". Today I have gotten 4 phone calls, 1 email and 1 IM. Really?!?!?!? What part of this is hard to understand that I am busy or off doing something else? Do I have to actually say it? I must because she is just not getting the hints.

As far as I know I am one of 4 people in town that she talks to, then there are the few people from her church, and her friends from Oregon or wherever. From what I understand she spends a lot of time on the phone to the point that she bought a headset. Maybe it's just me bit that seems like a lot of time to be spending on the phone when your not working or looking for work. I think that time could be spent doing something else but that's just my opinion.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Excuse me while I yawn

you would think I was K is a high maintenance person, this is something that I learned months ago but because I have a very hard telling people no, I can't get away from her. I feel guilty for not helping her (ummmm religious or something) or listening to her but when she goes on and on......and on......and on about the same thing for 30 minutes it makes it a little hard to listen let alone care about what is going on with her. I know it doesn't sound nice but it's hard to listen to someone go on and on about having sick puppies in the house when I'm trying to get my daughter dressed. And yes I've said it to her that I need to go and take care of things in my house
She doesn't get it. She never will. Everything that she does or had is better than it is here. I may have said this before but she doesn't listen. She seems to think that AZ is worse then OR, that people don't know what they are doing here. A couple of good examples

A couple of months ago a transformer box blew up across the street from her house, nothing big, just a big spark didn't even have to call the fire dept. Her response? "I guess they just don't make them like they do in X"

I'm sorry, they weren't made here, some company somewhere made them so it's not like the city of Bisbee made them and put them up.

The weather here changes fast, especially during monsoon season I've learned. Well she checks the weather and it says one thing and then she comes back a couple of hours later and it's changed. "Oh great, they changed the weather on me again, typical."

Um isn't that what weather does? Change?

Those are just two that I can think of off the top of my head but there will always be more, lol.

Saturday, February 16, 2008

In her defense,lol

OK just a little background on K. She thinks she is the authority on just about everything. Now she hasn't come right out and said it but you can tell from the tone of her voice to what she says. Most of the time I let it go, when she's talking about dog stuff she does know more than me. She ran a kennel for years and it was a really good one from what I've seen picture-wise but then she has moments like this.

During the Super Bowl she called me to talk, normally I wouldn't have answered the phone but I knew she was going to call. Anyways she asked me how the game was going and I told her then she said "Well I should have called my friend in, he's an hour ahead of us. He can tell me the final score of the game since the game is almost over there."
WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Yes, ladies and gentlemen, that's what she said. Now remember that she doesn't watch football, or any sports for that matter, but c'om. It's a LIVE game, live being the most important word there. It took me 10 minutes to make her understand that it was a LIVE game, played here in AZ, and that the reason the game started an hour earlier for the guy is because of the time changes. It took a lot for me to not to just yell it into the phone. That conversation alone has taken a lot of the wind out of her sails.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Cold weather

It is soooooooo cold here. I know other people in the states are getting snowed in, flooded out, and stuff like that but it's windy today. Last time I checked in with the weather channel it said it was 61 but the wind is making it feel like 40. Oh well we will see about that tonight.

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

She doesn't get it

not even a little bit. K doesn't have kids of her own, how could she you read the last post about the animals so where would a kid be in all that??? But I'm getting off topic. I take S over to her house mainly because the walk there and back is good exercise and she has plenty of space outside for her to play in. But that's it. I would never go to dinner and leave her with her for a couple of hours that is just out of the question. Especially after yesterday.

A couple of days ago we went to Walmart and she bought a bunch of stuff for S to use at her house, glue, paper, stuff like that. Well when I left they were playing outside. It was a little windy but not as bad as at my house since i leave right at the base of a mt. Fine, everything is fine, so I walk all the way home and get the car and come back for her. I called to tell her that i was on the way so they can clean up whatever they were playing with, you give her a warning. Well I get there and they are coloring and gluing pom poms to paper, it was all very cute.......until i saw that there was a heart drawn on her pants.. IN GLUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes that's what I said, in glue. And then something was drawn on her back pocket to. I was trying really hard not to get upset but just because it says it's washable does not mean that you can put tit on anything. I left, with S, and did what I needed to do came home and washed her pants, twice. When I talked to her later online, she asked me about ti and I told her that it finally came out. She got upset because "it says it's washable, that's just like a bait and switch. I'm going to write them a letter and tell them they can't mislabeled and mislead people like that".

me "No K, it's not meant for fabric, and it is washable.... from your hands"

K "Well that's just wrong, they shouldn't do that"

K "the girls and I used body paints on our clothes and skin but, it washed out easily..."

me "because body paint is meant to wash off of just about anything, not the same for glue or crayons"

K "WELL.... they should NOT say washable then!"

I could go on wit the conversation but I think you get the point. How many different ways can I say not to do that? I finally just told her not to do it. It's meant for paper, pom poms and stuff like that. Maybe it's just me but that is just stupid on her part. Kid or not, if I was watching someone else child and they got something on their pants be it crayon, glue, stickers, whatever, I would try to take it off not get made at the company that made it because it didn't wash out.

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Ok so K has done it again. She is a big advocate for animals right which is fine but she needs to control it. She already has a pit bull of her own, 2 hairless dogs, and 2 cats. Well of course when you have a male/female cat your bound to get kittens right? right. So now there are 3 cats. Then she got another male kitten that was about 4 weeks old so now there are 4 cats, but gets better. well the female went in heat again and just had kittens......again!!! So now there are 6 cats in the house along with 2 puppies and a pit bull. Then there is mother, who has a ranch outside of town. She has sheep and dogs (that's where K got the dogs from)and we've been out there quite a few times. Well the herd is pregnant and have been having babies for the past month, since the beginning of December. It's been great for S but....can you tell where I'm going with this? Yes, now she has lambs. The mothers have "abandoned" them so she says. I haven't been there to witness it so I can't say what is going on there. So let's go back to the animal count.
1 Pit Bull
2 Hairless puppies
6 cats
2 lambs
3 fish (yeah sorry about not mentioning that one sooner)

Ok so now that I've given you a little bit of a background let me get to what has happened today. There is a ranch outside of town, I know a lot of ranch's around here, that we've been to this past week. Now I don't know a whole lot about horses, never owned one so what would I know if an animal is underfed? Oh I know maybe because I can see their ribs!!!!!!! Now she's had a horse, that much I know what but what happened with it, I don't know. But here's my thing. We drove by it and she was going on and on about how the horses are just so skinny and the person is doing a horrible job taking care of them and that she couldn't believe that I would go to a place like that. She knew that we had just been there a couple of days ago so why keep going? We walked around the ranch, feed the horses, saw everything that was there.
She didn't hid anything, and was very friendly, the lady at the ranch. She was very nice. There were lost of horses there, about 10, and a bunch of burros to. None of them were really shy, not anymore then I would expect if 3 kids came screaming to the fence, lol. And I told K about this. Told her that none of the animals looked sick, hungry, etc. And she says, well they must have put them away. That pissed me off. I was very tempted to pull the car over, yank her out and make her go look at the horses. Don't tell me what I saw and what is going on. I told her that she really can't judge what other people are doing at their places unless she goes out there. Was I wrong for saying that? I don't think so.

She complains about the neighborhood dog and messes with her 3 dogs, and even gone so far as to jump the fence and mount the female puppy. Don't tell me about it, go say something to the guy (she sees him every morning let the dog out) or call animal control or the cops. Make a complaint. Do something about it but quit complaining to me about it when you don't want to hear what I have to say. It's just dumb.