Just to warn you this is a very personal post so if you are not ready to read about sex and love then stop reading now.
I was with my mommy friends today and we somehow got on the topic of "open marriages". Now I am not one to openly talk about my marriage and today was one of those days. They were talking about how "open marriages" were detrimental to the woman and the relationship. I, for one, am here to say that is not always the case. I have an open marriage and by that I mean we talk about everything.
There is not a lot we don't tell each other. I know he is attracted to these other women he sees and vice versa, there's nothing wrong with that. If you are not open and honest with the person you are with then you can't be comfortable with them.
Now some of yo may be thinking, does he openly do it in front of me? Do I find that rude? Not all. I know he loves me (and vice versa) and that these women (men) are just for fun. They are not serious and will never be serious. One of the ladies said "When your fantasy becomes real life, then you have a problem." Personally I see nothing wrong with letting your fantasies come true. If it is in a comfortable, controlled setting.
There is no way that I would have, or will, tell these ladies about my marriage. They are not open enough to take what I have to say seriously.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Friday, September 5, 2008
This is from about 2 weeks ago but has been going on for awhile. (I had to grab it from one of my mommy boards instead of typing it all over again)
I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.
There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.
She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.
She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.
On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.
There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.
So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)
Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.
I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.
There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.
She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.
She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.
On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.
There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.
So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)
Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.
Sunday, June 1, 2008
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Now I am not one to be against anyone but isn't this a very girly guy? I'm almost positive that this is a cross dresser.
Monday, May 26, 2008
I'm sick leave me alone!!!!!!!!
I got sick on Friday and was trying to sleep. I woke up this way. I felt bad on Thursday and didn't finish my nil appt. I mean I got all the way there and then left. I felt really bad to because I love my nail lady. I think I've said how much I like my nail lady but I'm getting off the topic.
Since I was feeling bad when I woke up I knew that I was just going to take Savie to school and then come home to sleep. I should have known that that was not going to be possible. I came home and decided that since i was home alone I would watch some of my movies alone. I had my laptop turned off, and my movies in, took a couple of cold pills and then laid down. I was ready to enjoy the movie and the quiet. and then. she called. Why you ask? Why did I answer the phone? Because I was hoping that she would realize that I was sick and needed to sleep and wasn't in the mood for a long, long, long, talk on the phone about what her dogs are doing and the cat is climbing up the wall, and the lamb is baa-ing to be let in, etc. I should have just let it go.
She calls everyday for nothing. To talk. I have other things that I need to do during the day. I'm sure that it's great and everything that she can talk while she cleans the yard, does a load of laundry but I would like to be able to do that stuff and talk to my daughter at the same time, not be on the phone with er. I don't care about the dang dog barking at some guy walking by, or that the cat is pregnant again, or that the guy she got the truck from is being weird. I don't know what any of that has to do with me. i have a life it's kinda sad that she doesn't. Instead of being able to sleep for at least 2 hours I spent 45 minutes on the phone with her and then tried to sleep.
Every day is like this. how many different ways can you possible be nice about not wanting to talk to someone? I work every morning so most of the time I don't answer my phone unless it's hubby. I don't want to be pulled away from the kids when I'm there. But I will have to find a way to stop this calling every couple of hours a day just to talk.
Since I was feeling bad when I woke up I knew that I was just going to take Savie to school and then come home to sleep. I should have known that that was not going to be possible. I came home and decided that since i was home alone I would watch some of my movies alone. I had my laptop turned off, and my movies in, took a couple of cold pills and then laid down. I was ready to enjoy the movie and the quiet. and then. she called. Why you ask? Why did I answer the phone? Because I was hoping that she would realize that I was sick and needed to sleep and wasn't in the mood for a long, long, long, talk on the phone about what her dogs are doing and the cat is climbing up the wall, and the lamb is baa-ing to be let in, etc. I should have just let it go.
She calls everyday for nothing. To talk. I have other things that I need to do during the day. I'm sure that it's great and everything that she can talk while she cleans the yard, does a load of laundry but I would like to be able to do that stuff and talk to my daughter at the same time, not be on the phone with er. I don't care about the dang dog barking at some guy walking by, or that the cat is pregnant again, or that the guy she got the truck from is being weird. I don't know what any of that has to do with me. i have a life it's kinda sad that she doesn't. Instead of being able to sleep for at least 2 hours I spent 45 minutes on the phone with her and then tried to sleep.
Every day is like this. how many different ways can you possible be nice about not wanting to talk to someone? I work every morning so most of the time I don't answer my phone unless it's hubby. I don't want to be pulled away from the kids when I'm there. But I will have to find a way to stop this calling every couple of hours a day just to talk.
Friday, March 28, 2008
For a person who is on a tight budget she always seems to call me just to talk. Her number is blocked so she has to unblock it to call me at home and it shows "unavailable" when she calls my cell, but she called me today and I knew she was out and about with someone else so I thought she was stuck somewhere and needed help, otherwise I would have waited to answer it. But I did. and it was just to tell me she a truck (is test driving it), got insurance for it, on her way to Douglas, etc. Why are you wasting you cell minutes, when your a pre-paid phone for that matter, just to tell me something you can tell me when you get home? That makes no sense.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Good Morning
Sometimes I wish if K was going to call me early in the morning that it would be for a good reason. Just to say Good Morning. Not to tell me that her neighbor, from across the street, dog's was out (AGAIN) and was in her yard (AGAIN) and that her dog was trying to attack it. Now I am a dog lover and don't wish harm to any animal but I have no sympathy for her today. I have told her to call the cops every time this dog is out running loose, getting in her yard, whatever the case may be. If you don't call, the dog doesn't have a record of disturbances and they don't know to keep an eye out for him. I know this because I have called about the dog 2 streets over from me. See the post I wrote about that here.
Did you read it? Ok so now your caught up. The dog that is 2 streets over has charged me several times, not only when I have taken my dog for a walk but when it's just Savie and I. That is where I draw the line. I understand that dogs being dogs, they will protect what they see as theirs, but to charge me when I am walking with my daughter will get you hurt. It doesn't matter what the breed is so I won't even tell you what the dog is but I have called about this dog several times. Every time. Not just when I am with Savie. this dog needs to be controlled. I blame the dogs actions on the owner.
Why you ask? Ever you ever seen people let their dogs out on a deserted road and then take off? try to 'race' the dog home?Yeah well that's what this guys does. Across one of the few major streets that we have in town. Not that far from a blind curve where people are driving 45MPH. This dog is going to get hurt. I have almost hit it once. (Going to the store after dark almost didn't see it when I turned the corner, doesn't help that this is a dark colored dog.)
So if she's going to get upset because the dog finally gets into her yard and messes with her lamb. and dog. and puppies. I can't help her.
Did you read it? Ok so now your caught up. The dog that is 2 streets over has charged me several times, not only when I have taken my dog for a walk but when it's just Savie and I. That is where I draw the line. I understand that dogs being dogs, they will protect what they see as theirs, but to charge me when I am walking with my daughter will get you hurt. It doesn't matter what the breed is so I won't even tell you what the dog is but I have called about this dog several times. Every time. Not just when I am with Savie. this dog needs to be controlled. I blame the dogs actions on the owner.
Why you ask? Ever you ever seen people let their dogs out on a deserted road and then take off? try to 'race' the dog home?Yeah well that's what this guys does. Across one of the few major streets that we have in town. Not that far from a blind curve where people are driving 45MPH. This dog is going to get hurt. I have almost hit it once. (Going to the store after dark almost didn't see it when I turned the corner, doesn't help that this is a dark colored dog.)
So if she's going to get upset because the dog finally gets into her yard and messes with her lamb. and dog. and puppies. I can't help her.
Monday, March 24, 2008
another rant
I hate to just keep harping on the same thing but K is really annoying. You would think that after a day or so of not talking to me she would get the hint that I don't have the time, or desire, to sit and talk on the phone for hours at a time. And it's not just with her, it's in general. I think the last time I spent more than 20 minutes on the phone talking to someone I was on hold. Yes I know that sounds mean and everything but I have a life. I have other things to do with my day. My day does not revolve around a bunch of animals in my house. I have a daughter to feed, pay attention to, clean up after, dishes to wash, clothes to wash/dry/fold/put away, etc.
Yesterday was Easter, time for family to be together doing whatever they do. I got 3 emails and 2 phone calls from her just "saying hi". Today I have gotten 4 phone calls, 1 email and 1 IM. Really?!?!?!? What part of this is hard to understand that I am busy or off doing something else? Do I have to actually say it? I must because she is just not getting the hints.
As far as I know I am one of 4 people in town that she talks to, then there are the few people from her church, and her friends from Oregon or wherever. From what I understand she spends a lot of time on the phone to the point that she bought a headset. Maybe it's just me bit that seems like a lot of time to be spending on the phone when your not working or looking for work. I think that time could be spent doing something else but that's just my opinion.
Yesterday was Easter, time for family to be together doing whatever they do. I got 3 emails and 2 phone calls from her just "saying hi". Today I have gotten 4 phone calls, 1 email and 1 IM. Really?!?!?!? What part of this is hard to understand that I am busy or off doing something else? Do I have to actually say it? I must because she is just not getting the hints.
As far as I know I am one of 4 people in town that she talks to, then there are the few people from her church, and her friends from Oregon or wherever. From what I understand she spends a lot of time on the phone to the point that she bought a headset. Maybe it's just me bit that seems like a lot of time to be spending on the phone when your not working or looking for work. I think that time could be spent doing something else but that's just my opinion.
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