As I have meantioned before I love watching Supernanny. A lot of the things she says and the way she fixes things make a lot of sense to me and seem so simple. One of my moms told me the other day that she was doing three things with her daughter at the same time, leaving her at the studio, getting herto sleep without mom, and also getting rid of the pacifier. The first two I kinda had a feeling about but the pacifier thing kinda surprised me since she's 3 and all but then again there have been kids on TV who were 5 with a pacifier. She asked for my help since she was going to stop leaving her here for awhile since she has regressed and is not having problems with it. When I asked her which one she was more attached to, her sleeping with her or the pacifier, she said the pacifier. I suggeseted that she do the pacifier first with the thinking being that if she is that attached to the pacifier it will take the longest to get over and be the hardest thing to do, then when it comes time to get mom out of the bed or leave her at school they won't be as hard to do and shouldn't take that long. It's just amazing how she deals with things since she seems to be so book smart and know about the world but can't seem to manage her own child. It makes me wonder if I went back to school would I lose the ability to cope and dal with what Savie does on a daily basis? Would I look like a frazzled woman when I go to the store with her?
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Sunday, March 8, 2009
Friday, September 5, 2008
This is from about 2 weeks ago but has been going on for awhile. (I had to grab it from one of my mommy boards instead of typing it all over again)
I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.
There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.
She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.
She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.
On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.
There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.
So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)
Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.
I work at a day care that is in a dance studio and by that I mean that it's little kids during the morning and then ballet and ariels in the afternoon and evening. So of course there is a wall of mirrors and hardwood floors. The bathroom is in the back part of the room, after you walk thru the kitchen. It's not that big of a kitchen, maybe 10 steps from one end to the bathroom.
There is one little girl there, J, who has gotten to be very pushy in the past month. When one of the other kids says they have to go potty, she suddenly has to go also and gets to the bathroom first and then just sits on the potty, which has resulted in a couple of kids going potty on themselves. This has happened a few times, once where my daughter was involved (she was keeping a child out of the bathroom as well). Now J has been told that she can't do that, that it's not nice, etc and that she needs to wait until that person has come out of the bathroom before she can go.
She has also pushed her way to the front of the line to wash hands. I know this for a fact because on Monday there were 4 kids in line waiting for me to help them wash their hands while i was at the other end of the room talking to J and 2 other kids. I told them to go get in line and by the time I got to the sink she was standing at the sink washing her hands while the 4 kids who were already there were still waiting. That resulted in a time-out.
She is an only child but that doesn't excuse her need to push other kids around. Any time a kid says something is wrong or needs something she suddenly has the same problem or need. She has been at the school since the beginning of summer (June) so she knows the rules and how things work.
On Monday also she pushed one of the other kids off the potty so she could go. The other little girl had her pants and panties down and was crying when I walked in to see what the problem was. That was the final straw. S, who actually runs the school, sat her down and told her that if she continues to do this pushing thing with the potty, that we will get a baby potty and she will have to use that when she needs to go and not go into the bathroom because she can't be trusted to go in the other room without us. Now, yes the potty will be in the main room, but it's not like we are going to sit her in the middle of the room and make her go. Hubby says that we can't humiliate her like that personally I don't see it that way.
There are plenty of people who put the potty in the living room when they are potty training their child and the whole family sees it happen and if it was my daughter that was doing this I have no problem with it. If that's what it takes for her to understand that she can't push her way into the bathroom and make other kids go potty on themselves then so be it. It's also something that needs to be addressed at home. Her parents need to talk to her about what she is doing.
So my question to you is this? Do you think we are in the wrong for telling J that if she continues to push she will use a baby potty in the main room or not come back at all? Are we humiliating her? (Oh there is a couch area for the ones that are there all day so they can take a nap, more than likely the potty will be in that area.)
Today it happened again. J made Savie wait so long to get on the potty that she went on herself and left a trail of it on the floor. I was livid. Not because I had to clean it up but because when I told J what she did, and had Savie turn around so she could see for herself, she laughed and said "ha, ha you went potty on yourself." That is not ok. She knows what she did and that it was wrong and the fact that she thought it was funny just makes it worse. I have no hard feelings I am just ready for it to stop.
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